Extending Yourself Grace When Life is Unraveling

Extending Yourself Grace

Extending yourself grace can be so difficult when all we continue to do is raise our expectations. We can be so very hard on ourselves when we feel we have fallen short. In this instance, grace does not mean bowing your head in prayer, but saying “It’s okay”.

Extending yourself grace when life seems to be unraveling.

We make mistakes, we weren’t created to be perfect. However, we then proceed to punish ourselves internally for being human. We create a ton of undue stress, calling ourselves failures and worse. You become your worst critic.

However, I tend to take it to the next degree where I just shut down. For instance, until recently, I had been trying to be much more consistent in my blog posting. Lately, I’ve been staring at my computer screen not know what to write. Every topic I come up with seems lame. Then I start feeling like as though I am just no good at this blog thing. So, I walk away and stay away.

The thing is, I love my blog. It’s my baby. I feel like the blog has grown and matured over the years just as I have. Then I beat myself up over not being able to just get back to business. It truly is a vicious cycle.

Grace is being proud of your work, even when you didn’t complete your tasks for the day. It’s being kind and gentle to yourself, allowing you the space to fall short. What am I doing to combat this negative self-talk with grace?


  1. Recognize those things you did get done that day. Make a list, by physically writing them down. Even the tiny steps are victories.
  2. Unplug and stop comparing. Social media and comparison go hand-in-hand. When you find yourself comparing your success to others and feel defeated, it’s time to close the social media channels. Do a digital detox. Read more about social media anxiety here.
  3. Start the next day with a clean slate. Take a break for that day, but start the next day with a clean slate. It’s a new day and a fresh start. Operate in grace and give your mind and body some rest.
  4. Don’t add so much to your “to do” list. I tend to write a very long to-do list because I just starting writing everything down that needs to be done so I don’t forget. However, the key is to prioritize only 1 – 3 tasks for that day, depending on involved they are. Spread the other tasks throughout the week.

So, tell me, what does grace look like to you? How do you react to your perceived failures?



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About the Author

I am a work from home mom who dearly loves her 15-year-old daughter, 11-year-old boy/girl twins, and husband. I love my life and feel very blessed by what God has provided for me.


  1. The “stop comparing” is a tough one with today’s technology, everyone seems to share the good but hide the bad.

  2. All you are saying is so true. I think we are so hard on ourselves and need to be happy with all the little things in our daily life.

  3. Comparing is something I do all the time and know I shouldn’t. It’s in my nature and so hard to overcome!

  4. We all need to stop comparing, but it’s a hard thing to do. Baby steps… That’s one of the problems with social media sometimes is that people only post their best moments, so we’re comparing our worst to someone else’s best.

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